SELFISHNESS. Always wrong? Or can it be a form of self-preservation?

Is selfishness always wrong? Are there good kinds of selfishness? Can it be a form of self-preservation? Does it depend on our definition of selfishness? This is part 8 in our series on the Self and its … [Read more...]

Self-discovery without Self-Viagra. Absent good parents you’ll need it.

Self-discovery without Self-Viagra. Absent good parents you'll need it. We're discussing finding and/or creating your Self. Number six in the series on SELF: POTENCY AND ACT. (FOR THE EARLIER POSTS IN THE SERIES PLEASE SEE BELOW.) HERE'S A LIST AND LINKS TO THE PREVIOUS SIX POSTS IN THE … [Read more...]

Self-esteem comes with self-knowledge and self-love.

Self-esteem comes from self-knowledge and self-love. There's no other way to get it. Here's a piece on Self-esteem by Helen Nieves writing on Psych Central. She's a Mental Health Counselor  who works in New York. She offers list of 14 ways that may help you to build your self-esteem and … [Read more...]

“SELFISH” VS “SELFLESS”

We’re talking about the self in this series. This is no 7. We introduce the word and concept of Selfishness. “SELFISH” VS. “SELFLESS”   We have to figure out who we are and what we want in life. A person has to spend time on his or her SELF. We can’t spend ALL of our time on … [Read more...]

Selfishness. Are you “selfish” in the family? Or preserving your sanity.

Selfishness. Are you "selfish" in the family? Or preserving your sanity. This is no 9 in our series on SELF. We have already tried to define selfishness. Today, we'll look at what some people say is selfishness in the family. This might apply to young women in school or fearful of going on … [Read more...]

How to cope with anxiety from an expert

How to cope with anxiety--from an expert. Scott Stossel, editor of The Atlantic, is a long-time sufferer of anxiety. In a piece called Surviving Anxiety he writes about holding down a high-profile, high pressure job while being anxious about...well a lot! (Photo: Jamie Chung) Stossel … [Read more...]

SELF-CONFIDENCE. Is being insecure an advantage in dating?

IS BEING INSECURE AN ADVANTAGE IN DATING?  Maybe, says recent research. However, many aren’t buying the study’s results.  Are you more likely to get dates if you are self-confident or insecure? This seems like a no-brainer, right? Conventional wisdom says self-confidence is a key in dating … [Read more...]

Know Yourself. Do you know YOURSELF?

DO IT YOURSELF: KNOW YOURSELF. Are you, You? (I MEAN THE REAL YOU AND NOT AN IMPOSTOR OF SOME KIND?) Do you even know? Have you thought about it lately? (This is part 2 in our series on the self. Part one is below.) Self-Knowledge' is crucial to determining who we are and what we want on … [Read more...]

BE YOURSELF– EVERYBODY ELSE IS TAKEN. GREAT ADVICE, UNLESS YOU DON’T KNOW YOURSELF

BE YOURSELF--EVERYBODY ELSE IS TAKEN. GREAT ADVICE, UNLESS YOU DON'T KNOW YOURSELF. -Oscar Wilde, playwright. Oscar Wilde’s instruction to "be yourself"  is terrific unless you haven’t a clue as to who you really are. Then you’re up the proverbial creek. We have to know who we are … [Read more...]

SEARCHING FOR YOURSELF? Need a new search party? Try you!

SEARCHING FOR YOURSELF? Need a new search party? Try you! FLYING BLIND? When children play Hide and Seek, at least the searchers know who they're looking for. Do we know who we're searching for when we're looking for ourselves? Not usually. Which means we're flying, or searching … [Read more...]

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