This is Part 10 in a series of articles about the “self.” YOU HAVE POTENCY. ARE YOU GOING TO ACT? Do you remember in the “olden days” of the internet when someone messaged you, the computer “Dinged” and said cheerfully, “You’ve got MAIL!!”? Do you remember in the "olden days" of the internet … [Read more...]

The Self, Part 9: Whatever you do, don’t be yourself!

Don't be yourself, whatever you do.  This is Part 9 in a series of articles about the "Self." Some years ago, I saw a funny New Yorker cartoon. A middle aged-couple is standing in front of the door to a house. They have arrived at a friend’s house for dinner. He is about to knock and the wife says … [Read more...]

The Self Part 8: Singer Sarah Slean knows who she is

  NO 5  in our series on the SELF. SARAH SLEAN--THE GIRL KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS! Sarah Slean is a Canadian songwriter/singer who knows who she is and what she wants. She wants to continue to compose songs, sing them and study everything in the world for the rest of her life. She is a … [Read more...]

The Self Part 7: Are you “selfish” in the family? Or preserving your sanity.

ARE YOU SELFISH OR SANE? Is it selfish or sane to ever consider yourself ahead of  your family? (This is no 7 in our series on SELF.) The last time we tried to define selfishness. Today, we’ll look at what some people say is selfish behavior  in the family. Is  your behavior in your family … [Read more...]

The Self Part 6: SELFISHNESS. Always wrong? Or can it be a form of self-preservation?

Is selfishness always wrong? Are there good kinds of selfishness? Can it be a form of self-preservation? Does it depend on our definition of selfishness? This is part 8 in our series on the Self and its meaning. Before we come to any conclusions regarding conventional wisdom, let’s look at … [Read more...]

The Self Part 5: Selfish vs Selfless (in women)

“SELFISH” VS. “SELFLESS” This is Part 5 in a series of articles about the “Self.” We’re talking about the self here. (This is one in a continuing series of articles about the Self. If you would like to read more on the Self, please see the links to other posts below). We introduce the … [Read more...]

The Self Part 4: Self-discovery without Viagra.

We're discussing finding and/or creating your Self. Number six in the series on SELF: POTENCY AND ACT. (FOR THE EARLIER POSTS IN THE SERIES PLEASE SEE BELOW.) BACK TO POTENCY! (No, not THAT kind of potency! Don't drift on me here!) Well, OK, you COULD call it Viagra for the Self. I … [Read more...]

The Self Part 3: Be Yourself, Everybody else is taken.

This is Part 3 in a series of articles about the “Self.” ARE YOU YOU? (I MEAN THE REAL YOU AND NOT AN IMPOSTER OF SOME KIND?) Do you even know if you are? Have you thought about it lately? Self-Knowledge’ is crucial to determining who we are and what we want on earth. It doesn’t … [Read more...]

The Self Part 2: Searching for yourself? Flying blind?

Need a new search party? Try you! When children play Hide and Seek, at least the searchers know who they’re looking for. Do we know who we’re searching for when we’re looking for ourselves? Not usually. Which means we’re flying, or searching, blind Because if we don’t know what we’re looking … [Read more...]

The Self Part 1: Do You Find Yourself or Create it?

AND WHY BOTHER ANYWAY? We joked the other day about “finding ourselves.” MANY EXPERTS ADVISE US TO “FIND OURSELVES.” But the philosopher Thomas Szasz and the writer George Bernard Shaw both say, “The self is not something one finds: it is something one creates.” What? S#*! Many wise … [Read more...]