The Self Part 7: Are you “selfish” in the family? Or preserving your sanity.

ARE YOU SELFISH OR SANE? Is it selfish or sane to ever consider yourself ahead of  your family? (This is no 7 in our series on SELF.) The last time we tried to define selfishness. Today, we’ll look at what some people say is selfish behavior  in the family. Is  your behavior in your family … [Read more...]

The Self Part 2: Searching for yourself? Flying blind?

Need a new search party? Try you! When children play Hide and Seek, at least the searchers know who they’re looking for. Do we know who we’re searching for when we’re looking for ourselves? Not usually. Which means we’re flying, or searching, blind Because if we don’t know what we’re looking … [Read more...]

The Self Part 1: Do You Find Yourself or Create it?

AND WHY BOTHER ANYWAY? We joked the other day about “finding ourselves.” MANY EXPERTS ADVISE US TO “FIND OURSELVES.” But the philosopher Thomas Szasz and the writer George Bernard Shaw both say, “The self is not something one finds: it is something one creates.” What? S#*! Many wise … [Read more...]

Overlooked Secret To A Successful Marriage?

Overlooked secret to a successful marriage? It ain't what you've heard! "Happy wife, happy life!" Ever hear that? (I've seen it in jewler's ads!~) There's a flaw in that statement if it means that one person is responsible for another's happiness.  It's a common saying. However, a recent Univ. … [Read more...]

Self-esteem comes with self-knowledge and self-love.

Self-esteem comes from self-knowledge and self-love. There's no other way to get it. Here's a piece on Self-esteem by Helen Nieves writing on Psych Central. She's a Mental Health Counselor  who works in New York. She offers list of 14 ways that may help you to build your self-esteem and … [Read more...]

BE YOURSELF– EVERYBODY ELSE IS TAKEN. GREAT ADVICE, UNLESS YOU DON’T KNOW YOURSELF

BE YOURSELF--EVERYBODY ELSE IS TAKEN. GREAT ADVICE, UNLESS YOU DON'T KNOW YOURSELF. -Oscar Wilde, playwright. Oscar Wilde’s instruction to "be yourself"  is terrific unless you haven’t a clue as to who you really are. Then you’re up the proverbial creek. We have to know who we are to be happy … [Read more...]

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